As a new mom, one of my pet peeves is people asking if my child is a “good baby.” I usually just smile and say yes but the concept of a “bad” baby is just silly to me.
I know what people mean by asking that, and I know they mean well, but it is still annoying. Babies cry. It is their only way to communicate. Can it be tiring and frustrating when a baby is crying for no apparent reason? Yes, that can be stressful, but it doesn’t make them a “bad” baby.
I like my friend’s response when people would ask her that. She’d say, “Yes, he’s a good baby. He hasn’t knocked over a single liquor store yet.”
All that being said, my son is more than just a “good” baby, he’s amazing. Does he cry sometimes when he is hungry or sleepy and occasionally for no discernible reason? Of course he does. For the most part however, he is very content. He’s happy to play on his quilt in the living room floor. He loves to jump in his jumperoo his Uncle Brian got for him. He’s really happy when we’re feeding him puffs or apples. He also likes green beans and asparagus.
Even when we do things out of our normal routine he’s pretty easygoing about it all. Last weekend we drove to Ohio for my cousin’s wedding. A six-and-half-hour car ride through tunnels, toll booths and mountains didn’t phase our little guy one bit. He slept through a lot of the drive there and back.
He actually slept through the wedding as well. He missed a beautiful ceremony, but he did wake up to enjoy the festivities at the reception. Actually, what he seemed to enjoy the most was seeing the bride’s sparkling dress and playing in the soft grass outside the reception tent.
Watching my son’s little face when he laughs is the greatest joy of my life. On the rare occasions he does cry or get upset, it just breaks my heart. I imagine it’s pretty tough being such a tiny person in this big scary world and not having a way to adequately communicate what you want or need.
As adults we can be scared or sad or just have a bad day, so can you imagine what it’s like to experience those feelings as a baby without having all the tools to fully understand those emotions yet?
As I watch the news and see what is happening with the many children that have been separated from their parents who have crossed the border, it weighs heavily on my heart what these children must be experiencing. As a new mom, I can’t even imagine having my child taken from me.
Truthfully, I found it difficult to feel patriotic this year on July Fourth knowing that this was happening in our great nation. We are lucky to live in this country and I can’t imagine what it must be like to come from a country riddled with drug cartels and other dangers that would make me risk everything to try to take my child and family to another country.
While my heart is so full of joy as I watch my son grow, I am also filled with sadness when I think of the many families being torn apart, all because they are seeking a better life.
Kitsey Burns Harrison is a staff reporter for The Yadkin Ripple. Here she shares her musings on life, love, food and being a new mom. She may be reached at 336-679-2341 or on Twitter and Instagram @RippleReporterK.